If I'm honest, I aimed to have this post out a lot sooner, but as it happens this campaign has come at a time when my own mind is a little all over the place. Am I really the person who should be telling you about body positivity when I can be so cruel to my own? Don't get me wrong, in general I feel good in myself, I accept myself for who I am and usually I know I deserve love and everything everyone else deserves, but I can't pretend there are not days when I look at myself, or see a nasty comment from someone and for a moment believe every bad thing I possibly could about myself. Why do we do it? Why does the fact I am fat mean I should let my confidence be ripped apart. I would never want anyone else to be treated that way. Is this the type of person you want telling you about body confidence? Or maybe is this the point of body positivity? It is not as simple as believing you are perfect all the time, its about the journey, about learning to be nicer to yourself when you don't feel great, or whilst hearing nasty things. We would never dream of saying these cruel things to our friends, so why do we think it's okay to pull ourselves down this way?

I have worked with Curvy Kate on a few occasions now and they are a brand I love for their promotion of Body Positivity (as well as their gorgeous lingerie available for fuller figures). Their latest campaign is called #MyBodyMyBFF, it encourages the idea that we should be kind to our own bodies, as we would be kind to our own best friends. We would never be hurtful to our best friends, we would never tell them their stretch marks, cellulite or how they look is horrible and we would never tell them they aren't good enough.

The campaign started on social media on the 15th June and will run until the 15th July. They ask for women to post pictures in their Curvy Kate favourites, share what they love about themselves and to pledge to be kind to their bodies and their minds for one whole month. By doing this they hope it incites confidence and self-love, to help women squash negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones instead.

We have been cruelly taught to believe that our bodies should be hated, that we are not worth anything if we do not look a certain way or that we should make ourselves miserable trying to be something we are not. Instead we should be embracing our differences, loving and taking care of our bodies and being kind and accepting of who we are. We have no one to answer to but ourselves, we do not have to justify the way we look or accept anyone else's judgement on it. Be proud of who you are, you are special and you are important.

My body has changed so much over the years, I was bullied for being fat in school, I lost weight as I grew, I put on weight when I had kids, I developed stretch marks and I LIVED. I've survived a lot of ups and downs and one thing I can say is that I am in a much better place, I am not always perfectly strong and I have my off days but I also realise by taking part in this pledge that I actually like my body. I like my size, I like my shape, I like my stretch marks and I like that my waist is weirdly small compared to my rather large bottom. I am me, I have lived my life, and been kind to others. Being fat is far from the worst thing I can be. I am proud that even when I have spend years friendless and hated I have not let it affect my ability to love and care for others and now I know that I deserve to treat myself just as well.

I am really thankful to Curvy Kate for doing this pledge campaign, I spend a lot of time debating with people on my opinion of being body positive as a plus size, but this campaign really broke down to me how I can still love myself even on the days I am not feeling the strength to fight my corner, its more like I can also be at peace, I can know that even though Ive had a fall, and I've been a little mean to myself, I can say I am sorry, that I don't deserve to be treated like that and that I am a strong, beautiful and powerful woman for all I have survived.

Thank you for reading my post, you still have time to take your #MyBodyMyBFF pledge and I highly recommend you do it. Take that journey, think of all the bad things you say about yourself and truly make yourself look at all the wonderful things you have to offer.

To take part all you have to do is post on social media about the campaign, sharing what you love about you and encouraging others to do the same. Make sure to use the hash tag #MyBodyMyBFF and include the @curvykate handle. You will also be in with a chance of winning a set of Curvy Kate Lingerie, a Curvy Kate Tote Bag and a Self Love Brings Beauty T-shirt.